From the Ground Up

I was challenged in February to think creatively about my personal journey and capture that in a selfie. I’m not a very abstract thinker but a few days before the deadline, I walked out my front door and right in front of me was the most starkly green, out of place, ugly weed I’ve ever…

Can Family & Friends Suffer from Secondary Trauma?

Secondary traumatic stress is a risk when we support and engage wholeheartedly with a trauma survivor. More recently, secondary traumatic stress has come to the front as an issue separate from burnout, and it should be addressed. While burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by long-term involvement in emotionally demanding…

Between us Girls – Disabled Dating Advice

As I review the statistics on this blog the most sought after topic and search terms used to bring readers to my site are surprisingly about romance. #Amputee love, disabled love, romance with a disabled person, can a disabled person find love, is dating possible for disabled people, love in a wheelchair, are just a…

Dear 16 yr. old Ashly…

July 5, 2019  (30th Anniversary of being Cancer-free) Dear 16 yr. old Ashly, There is so much in life that you are pushing through and you don’t have to. It’s OK to be who you are, to accept the fact that you really do have a disability and that it is not at all tied…

5 Ways to LET GO of the Past

  Whether we had an argument with our family, an ex-partner that keeps popping up in our thoughts, or a co-worker that we need to forgive and keep working with, we all have parts of our past that we need to let go of. I am betting that there are at least one or two…

From Victim to Victor

I have been thinking a lot lately about what separates those who succeed and live full/happy lives straight to the end from those that seem stuck in a circle of sabotage and bad luck for the rest of their lives.  This discussion was provoked by my husband’s new job. In it, he works with many…

Just being me…leads to breakthrough?

You haven’t heard as much from me on my blog lately.  I have been on a personal journey.  I’m growing in a new way and it is so exciting!  You see, throughout my blogging history I always maintain a few filters before posting an article.  There are goals and ways I wish to convey myself…

I Ain’t Got a Leg to Stand on…

I Ain’t Got a Leg to Stand on… If you have followed my blog for any amount of time you know the struggle with my leg.  Not my real one, my fake one.  I truly do not even understand how something that isn’t even real can constantly send you such unhealthy vibes.  First I have…

Don’t Bury Your Talent!

Don’t Bury Your Talent!   “For it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted to them his property. To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability. Then he went away.  He who had received the five talents went…

Recognizing the Pattern of Psychological Abuse

There are times I hear stories from friends or acquaintances and want to reach out and let them know that they are experiencing Psychological Abuse. Of course it is not always easily said, especially when a person is not yet ready to hear the truth or ready to recognize it (let alone stand up for…